Infertility is an issue that many couples face when they decide to start a family. It’s a frustrating, faith-testing diagnosis, that can be a confidence killer and can strain even the closest of relationships. As someone with personal experience, infertility can be a difficult subject to discuss. Not only with those around you, but with your partner, as well. My husband Jason, and I tried for 5 long years before we got pregnant. During that time, something that had been a source of personal connection, became ruled by calendars, doctor appointments, and timing. It all became so very sterile and mechanical that we began to lose the intimacy we once cherished.
At the time, we didn’t live near family or close friends, having relocated after getting married. Although we had made new friends, infertility is not something that one just casually brings up over dinner conversation…”Hey Suzy, it seems the mucosal lining of my cervix is not conducive to Jason’s sperm, can you pass the salt, please?” Jason and I had to rely on each other, and as the days became weeks, and weeks became years, we were pushed to our limits.
Did you know that we weren’t in the same room for many of the fertility treatments? Jason made his “contribution” in a small dark room – high on the creepy scale. As for my part, laying on a bed staring at fluorescent lighting was not the kind of foreplay I appreciated. And don’t get me started on the shots – Jason claims he didn’t take pleasure in giving them to me, but there is a small part of me that isn’t quite so sure. Even so, after a round of IUI (Intrauterine Insemination) and then IVF (In-Vitro Fertilization) I got pregnant. Whew! The stress was gone, we had done it. We were going to be a family – finally.
Then the worst thing that could happen, did – at 12 weeks, I lost the baby. We were crushed. Jason, the doctors and those who knew – soothed and empathized, but I still couldn’t help but feel as though it was my fault. I was the one who couldn’t get pregnant, I was the one who lost the baby. It was ME. I was broken and defective. Yet, in the midst of all the pain, this man of mine, still wanted me. Still wanted to try again. Though I didn’t think I was ready, he could see that moving forward and facing my insecurities would be better than dwelling on the loss and difficulties. This could easily have destroyed us. Was it difficult, absolutely. Hardest thing I have ever done.
Knowing what I had to face again, no one would have faulted me for giving up. But I wasn’t alone. Together, we communicated and trusted each other to take it step by step. We never gave up. After a second round of IVF, we conceived and delivered triplets. The stress, the sterility of the process, the shots and everything else had been worth it all!
Now, there is a new innovation that can make this process much less sterile and impersonal, helping to reduce the stress of conception – the Stork OTC . The Stork OTC keeps the process of conception in the home, between you and your partner. I only wish we had access to the convenience of this product, it would have given us more control in our fertility journey. Check out the Stork website to learn more.
About Stork OTC:
The Stork OTC is a uniquely designed medical device you use at home, during ovulation, to assist your chances of becoming pregnant by using the cervical cap insemination technique. This smart technique enables the sperm to quickly bypass the vaginal tract and places the sperm as close as possible to the opening of the cervix, right where it needs to swim up through to get to the egg. The product can be used in private, at home, without a prescription.
Disclosure: I have been compensated for this post in partnership with Stork. Personal reflection and opinions are mine.